In the whirlwind of day to day life our divine feminine energy can sometimes get buried under our layers we unintentionally put up. More often than not when we are being productive and compartmentalizing emotions and tasks in our day our more masculine energy comes forward to get sh*t done. Using that "yang" energy can be boldly empowering in it's own type of way, but it's important to honor our more gentle "yin" energy and tune into our inner goddess. As women it's important for our sense of self, hormonal health and happiness. After all, if we don't embrace her and have a strong sense of who she is, how will she shine?
- Protect your time to just "be"
The first and most important step to getting in touch with your inner goddess is to carve out the time in your schedule. Set aside time for a morning meditation, time in nature, and time to connect with your inner self - whatever that may look like. In the long run everyone around you will benefit from you having time to just be.
- Connect with you body & love on it
Physical movement is a beautiful way to give your body the attention it deserves, and let your mind connect with it. If you don't have time to go to the gym or a class try lying on a yoga mat at home and stretching. Doing a body scan is a great way to take an inventory of how your body is feeling. Are you carrying tension in your neck or back? Do you have a stomach or headache?
I like to create a ritual where I thank myself for showing up to do the movement, and you thank my body afterwards. Also, the endorphins you release after physical movement can have a euphoric effect.
Reiki and massage are other revitalizing ways to help connect with your body. Reiki can bring you closer to your higher self and help you to get more in touch with your spirituality and your intuition.
- When you finish work, create a transition time where you step out of work mode and let your energy soften
When you are working all day or in productive mode it can be helpful to mentally take off that hat at the end of the day and let your energy soften. Especially if you are in a leadership position or doing a job where you have to be "on" all day. When you finish work take a deep breath, allow your energy to soften, and set a new intention for how you want your energy to shift for the rest of the day. In this kind of conscious transition you are giving yourself permission to just be and not necessarily lead or be in control. Give yourself permission to be open and vulnerable with your emotions.
Light some candles, put on a playlist or meditation music and have an Epsom salt bath with essential oils (the scent of lavender is especially relaxing). Exfoliate your body with a body scrub and let the sensation awaken your body. Give yourself a hair mask- I love Rahua Omega 9 Hair Mask
(made with plant based ingredients and smells like lavender and eucalyptus). Let your body sink into the steamy tub and afterward massage your body with body oil. Then slip into a silky slip dress or comfy kaftan or robe and continue to unwind.
Cook your favorite delicious meal and do it with the same intention and love you would if you were cooking for someone else. Nourish yourself and slow down to taste and savor each bite. Top it off with some raw cacao chocolate.
- Surround yourself with beauty
Cleanse your home of any items that you don't need, or don't bring you joy. Think of your home as a goddess den and surround yourself with things that uplift your spirit. Art, photographs, flowers, seashells, crystals, or any other little treasures.
- Reach out to the women in your life, & meet new ones
Call up your girlfriends and share a heart to heart over the phone, have a girls night in or out, or get involved in a community that supports womanhood like WMN Space
a conscious space for women to gather in circle. *Getting in touch with the moon's cycles is another way to get in touch with yourself but that's a whole other post*. Surround yourself with women who inspire you and make you feel empowered to be yourself.
A big part of owning your feminine power is being in tuned with your emotions... acknowledging when something triggers or upsets you, not judging that, and letting it go so that you can heal and move forward to step into your power. We have all these different ideas of what "feminine" and "sexy" look like, and how we should project those things, but at the end of the day I think being raw and honest with yourself and/or your partner about where you're at and how you're feeling is not only the most attractive thing but also the only way to really feel good in your own skin...for your own sake.